580 divorced individuals from Germany, Italy and Switzerland provided retrospective reports on the perceived similarity and differences between themselves and their former partner and on their own and their partner’s attractiveness. Initiators and noninitiators were compared with regard to these different variables. Results demonstrated that most divorcees perceived themselves to be quite similar to their former partner. Initiating women were more numerous than nonintiating to perceive themselves to be different from their former partner in personality, norms and needs and to evaluate their former partner to be less attractive. Initiating men were more numerous than nonitiating to perceive differences with regard to the personality between themselves and their partner.